the profound statement that saved a marriage
"XXX, you're a fair-weather friend! as long as i'm sweet, loving and caring you're here for me. but as soon as i'm not, you walk right out that door!"
the quote kind of remained in my head somewhere after reading that. which makes for some thinking... we often have fun with friends and share, and stuff. but it doesn't really factor into the equation. we can live life without fun (although it's boring). still though, importance comes when we're in pain. at that point in time, we have nothing to give, and everything to claim. how many will stand out during those times to lend a hand, knowing they would probably get nothing in return?
an age-old adage went by: In this world you have to help yourself, because if you don't, nobody else would help you. in fact there were times (and there are times) when helping someone puts you at a distinct disadvantage. a few years ago, a child actress lost a lead role because she was an hour late in arriving at the shooting scene. the reason for the tardiness? she helped an old grandmother find her way to her grandchild's house. it's rather oxymoronic that in this society, we keep lamenting about how values are downtrodden and all, but actions don't exactly justify the words. in this particular instance, she was berated for "wasting time and energy" and "serves you right for losign that role". the irony speaks for iteself. as i said before, it's laughably ridiculous when what people preach and what their actions are are in contrast.
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we try to prevent accidents in real-life, do we not? (well if anyone would like accidents to happen to them please raise hands >_>) but as much as we try to avoid them, sometimes they just happen. why else would we call them accidents? what would you do in the face of an accident? breeze thorugh and just try to smoke? take it head on?
life is rather short in iteself, and almost everyone dies with regrets. don't know why, it's just a human trait, i guess. the best answer i could find to that, would be that use the opportunity while you're on this world, to do what you love to do. time passes quickly, even at our age (since the oldies complain time passes quickly) and is rather elusive at times. personally, i'm not too into the argument of sacrificing the now for success or joy in the future. it's like that student of plato's... by the time he walks to the end of the field of flowers, he realized it's too late to pick any of them. same thing, by the time we keep anticipating joy and success in the future, it would be too late. there's nothing left to enjoy.
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one last thing... when you entrust someone to do something, do you still constantly hover and monitor the situation? do you try to improve it, make it a success by other means? because while i can see that a lot of people do that, unltimately it sends a signal that "i don't trust you to do a good job". it is like throwing a bucket of cold water, or hurling an insult at whoever you've chosen for the job. it undermines their capability. so in future, if you want to delegate a task, just expect it by the dateline and maybe send a reminder or two. otherwise, just take it on by yourself.
P.S. i hate to bring this up, but it seems i was right. no responses or replies for nearly a week. guess it's always easier to melt away into the backgrounds when you have that protection of annonymity over your head, eh? all posts removed.
the quote kind of remained in my head somewhere after reading that. which makes for some thinking... we often have fun with friends and share, and stuff. but it doesn't really factor into the equation. we can live life without fun (although it's boring). still though, importance comes when we're in pain. at that point in time, we have nothing to give, and everything to claim. how many will stand out during those times to lend a hand, knowing they would probably get nothing in return?
an age-old adage went by: In this world you have to help yourself, because if you don't, nobody else would help you. in fact there were times (and there are times) when helping someone puts you at a distinct disadvantage. a few years ago, a child actress lost a lead role because she was an hour late in arriving at the shooting scene. the reason for the tardiness? she helped an old grandmother find her way to her grandchild's house. it's rather oxymoronic that in this society, we keep lamenting about how values are downtrodden and all, but actions don't exactly justify the words. in this particular instance, she was berated for "wasting time and energy" and "serves you right for losign that role". the irony speaks for iteself. as i said before, it's laughably ridiculous when what people preach and what their actions are are in contrast.
...
we try to prevent accidents in real-life, do we not? (well if anyone would like accidents to happen to them please raise hands >_>) but as much as we try to avoid them, sometimes they just happen. why else would we call them accidents? what would you do in the face of an accident? breeze thorugh and just try to smoke? take it head on?
life is rather short in iteself, and almost everyone dies with regrets. don't know why, it's just a human trait, i guess. the best answer i could find to that, would be that use the opportunity while you're on this world, to do what you love to do. time passes quickly, even at our age (since the oldies complain time passes quickly) and is rather elusive at times. personally, i'm not too into the argument of sacrificing the now for success or joy in the future. it's like that student of plato's... by the time he walks to the end of the field of flowers, he realized it's too late to pick any of them. same thing, by the time we keep anticipating joy and success in the future, it would be too late. there's nothing left to enjoy.
...
one last thing... when you entrust someone to do something, do you still constantly hover and monitor the situation? do you try to improve it, make it a success by other means? because while i can see that a lot of people do that, unltimately it sends a signal that "i don't trust you to do a good job". it is like throwing a bucket of cold water, or hurling an insult at whoever you've chosen for the job. it undermines their capability. so in future, if you want to delegate a task, just expect it by the dateline and maybe send a reminder or two. otherwise, just take it on by yourself.
P.S. i hate to bring this up, but it seems i was right. no responses or replies for nearly a week. guess it's always easier to melt away into the backgrounds when you have that protection of annonymity over your head, eh? all posts removed.
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