Fashan kat maan nat, maan q'a nat

sometimes the right thing to do isn't the important thing to do. so when do we choose what to do? that's kinda hard to define... that's what makes us unpredictable. sometimes we choose what is right, sometimes we choose what is important, but all the time, we do what we feel is the best choice isn't it?

thanks for most of the replies i got from my last post. breaks the record for most responses. heh. but that's not the point. couple of interesting points, and also some very... useless comments. i got one "live with it, there's nothing you can do about the situation so stop whining about the problem." oh, so that's your view of life. if something's wrong, it's always going to be wrong, so we take a back seat and don't bother with it? so next time you fall sick i don't wanna see you at the doctor's. you're sick, so something's wrong with your body. why should you do something about it?

just to round up i thought i'd post what i thought was quite a good music video. i don't listen to english songs much, but this one was really good and had some powerful messages, i thought.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R5AhkCoamAo

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for the romance fans out there, also got some insight to share. the trigger for this discussion, oddly enough, was new year's visiting at relatives. past years it's always the oldies talk among themselves (happens all the time innit) and my gen (or what's left of it) play some random things like mahjong, or goof around a bit... this year some things change. for one they brought their girlfriends over. and we all know how hard it is to try and join in the conversation when that happens. and we all know people don't feel like doing anything else, either. so i get left off around. but that's besides the point.

how true is it that without that initial spark, you can just "get things going" just hanging around long enough? i'm not talking about those cheesy love-hate relationships because they've been done to death. what i mean is if you don't feel anything at all but just "try out for a month" or something along those lines. because that's how hook-up dates, partnership agencies and the like work, and i'm beginning to wonder how effective they really are.

and then it went on to a sort of gp-ish discussion from there. which, isn't really that bad of a thing but does get grating at times.

point #1: the best way to get over a terrible relationship, which in most circumstances has ended, is to get into a new one. make sure the new one is better, lasts longer and is more memorable than the old one. that way you'll forget the bitter memories of the first. but careful not to fall into the rebound trap though. a rebound is where you clutch at anything to fill up the empty hole within you. that's not healthy, either yourself or whoever you're clutching to.

point #2: in order to truely understand the owrkings of love, you have to experience it first. why do some people say they're second marriages (after decease of a spouse) work out well? because they know what to look out for. it's part of experience, i think. something you learn along as you go...

then there are my points, the other side of the story... which sounds mroe of a rant, but well, i try to keep emotions out of my arguments because they just aren't very persuasive.

point #1: exclusive unhealthy relationships. nothing wrong with having a relation, in fact it might give you a new outlook on life and such, and maybe even something to look forward to (because we all know how dreary school can be) but it's rather unhealthy when other people are shut out. there are some couples that are like permanently stuck together. can't even get a word in without feeling weird. it's almost akin to being anti-social. but i guess different slices for different folks...

point #2: i don't really share this. iit's kept somewhere i'd rather not surface, but it did come out. and it did silence them. why do i keep distances from people? or more like, why hasn't anyone been able to penetrate this ice? why? because this ice has hardened over time. trust, and information about yourself, when shared too readily, can become tools of comfort, but can also become deadly weapons used against you. and one of the things that makes you lose faith in humankind as a whole, is that of betrayal. few people know the true meaning of betrayal. a promise not kept? a bond of trust broken? those are minor incidences. constituent of betrayal is when and i quote: "you never treat someone special, walk all over him, tear him to pieces, and then abandon him" don't ask me where i got the quote from, but take it from me that it's true. and i know it.

conclusion? sorry, i believe you can make one on your own. have happy and healthy relationships, people. that's the best i can say for the new year.