a thought
i don't really have much to post on this thing anymore. but there are certain times like today when a thought pops up from some stimulus and i just can't get it out of my mind, so i'd just write it down here for future references.
be warned though. these musings i have are usually not politically correct. (if they were they'd be pretty boring) and if i offend your sense of righteousness and justice please seek your opinions elsewhere.
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now, the article that piqued my interest this morning came oddly from the "life" section of the newspaper. front page news, even. for those of you who don't have the big habit of reading, im talking about the headline of female-centred movies recently about "negative stereotypes".
im of the thinking that there aren't stereotypes for no reason. and one of the most important factors is that these movies portray women who are in their middle ages. i.e. hitting thirty, sometimes slightly over thirty.
that's one of the largest indicators, cause that is also when attitudes toward life get a big change. my opinion, of course, which counts for little especially since i never go through the phase women go through. but here's the largest difference i can make a guess on. before the middle ages, you'd think about partying, career, having a fun time etc etc. when you're pushing thirty or even closer to 40. family and children start occupying most of your brain cells. am i wrong?
i'd like to ask an open question right now. how many people out there, my age, slightly junior, slightly senior, maybe even those i know who are taking courses in various universities right now. how many of you people out there are thinking of settling down, having children and the works. (im not counting marrying, although as of late marriage ages are also getting lower). if i may be slightly bold and general, i'd say that most people out there are just concentrated on building career, having a fun time, going out with who they like.
and therein lies the problem. i am, of course, making a wild guess here and you're welcome to prove me wrong. (only when you're at the appropriate age, please) but once you're at a certain age, worries start to pile up. will i get a good partner? can i still have a baby? etc. there is some fundamental loneliness in all of us, the need to have a proper family. those with parents still alive can put off that feeling slightly longer. but still, it eventually catches up.
and therein lies the article about these characters being "man-crazy". they have to be, how can they be not? at that age when nature is screaming at you, when half the people you know are happily in a loving family. suddenly, oh noes. i need one! is it still too late? am i still available?
there is a good saying i read some time back. as men age, the pool of potential partners increase, while the opposite can be said of women. unpleasant as it may be, im inclined to think it's absolutely correct. and at the age panic starts to set in, well, you get what we see. "man-crazy" syndrome.
yea, while i was in school i was routinely and repeatedly chastised for being a chauvanistic pig. hey, it's not like i have anything against women. i just have the misfortune of pointing out glaring faults. and not just in women either. but seriously, i have never gotten scathing remarks when i make fun of the male side of homo sapiens. wonder why. maybe it's all the insecurity, the need to assure oneself, "hey, im in charge. don't go saying anything you damn bloody well please". or is it the need to continue the delusion of equality, in this still very male-dominated world?
one last question before i leave. has anyone wondered why it is almost impossible NOT to love babies when you set eyes on them, yet we keep insisting that we have to "know someone very well" before you can declare love? double standards much? especially the ladies. i'd like an opinion on this one.
be warned though. these musings i have are usually not politically correct. (if they were they'd be pretty boring) and if i offend your sense of righteousness and justice please seek your opinions elsewhere.
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now, the article that piqued my interest this morning came oddly from the "life" section of the newspaper. front page news, even. for those of you who don't have the big habit of reading, im talking about the headline of female-centred movies recently about "negative stereotypes".
im of the thinking that there aren't stereotypes for no reason. and one of the most important factors is that these movies portray women who are in their middle ages. i.e. hitting thirty, sometimes slightly over thirty.
that's one of the largest indicators, cause that is also when attitudes toward life get a big change. my opinion, of course, which counts for little especially since i never go through the phase women go through. but here's the largest difference i can make a guess on. before the middle ages, you'd think about partying, career, having a fun time etc etc. when you're pushing thirty or even closer to 40. family and children start occupying most of your brain cells. am i wrong?
i'd like to ask an open question right now. how many people out there, my age, slightly junior, slightly senior, maybe even those i know who are taking courses in various universities right now. how many of you people out there are thinking of settling down, having children and the works. (im not counting marrying, although as of late marriage ages are also getting lower). if i may be slightly bold and general, i'd say that most people out there are just concentrated on building career, having a fun time, going out with who they like.
and therein lies the problem. i am, of course, making a wild guess here and you're welcome to prove me wrong. (only when you're at the appropriate age, please) but once you're at a certain age, worries start to pile up. will i get a good partner? can i still have a baby? etc. there is some fundamental loneliness in all of us, the need to have a proper family. those with parents still alive can put off that feeling slightly longer. but still, it eventually catches up.
and therein lies the article about these characters being "man-crazy". they have to be, how can they be not? at that age when nature is screaming at you, when half the people you know are happily in a loving family. suddenly, oh noes. i need one! is it still too late? am i still available?
there is a good saying i read some time back. as men age, the pool of potential partners increase, while the opposite can be said of women. unpleasant as it may be, im inclined to think it's absolutely correct. and at the age panic starts to set in, well, you get what we see. "man-crazy" syndrome.
yea, while i was in school i was routinely and repeatedly chastised for being a chauvanistic pig. hey, it's not like i have anything against women. i just have the misfortune of pointing out glaring faults. and not just in women either. but seriously, i have never gotten scathing remarks when i make fun of the male side of homo sapiens. wonder why. maybe it's all the insecurity, the need to assure oneself, "hey, im in charge. don't go saying anything you damn bloody well please". or is it the need to continue the delusion of equality, in this still very male-dominated world?
one last question before i leave. has anyone wondered why it is almost impossible NOT to love babies when you set eyes on them, yet we keep insisting that we have to "know someone very well" before you can declare love? double standards much? especially the ladies. i'd like an opinion on this one.
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