one more paper...
right. as for the absence, yes it is mostly attributed to the "A's" and prelims. no it is not mostly over, because the most difficult paper is coming up at the end of it, and i still have no idea whatsoever on how to pass it.
one person told me that she didn't like blogs and facebook because it's like opening up your life and diary for others to read. like you're sharing with the whole wide world your most personal details and life experiences and such. and that is rather true, looking at the state in which blogs are currently used. most of those i see are like describing their everyday lives, how they feel on issues, and stuff. which is ok, but perhaps not so palatable with 0thers.
other uses are pretty good too. the recent newspaper article on how one person uses the web to look for one particular person he saw on the subway? that's pretty avid use of imagination and technology, i thought. then there are those who use it for advertising purposes. boundaries of the net are only limited by imagination, but sadly most of us stick to tried-and-tested means of doing things. Plus it looks increasingly like just another popularity tool.
also, i didn't post much because i didn't have anything useful to say. i'm not much an advocate of posting mundane things and stuff. i don't have that much of an interest into other's lives and i hope nobody's going to poke into mine as well. and posting mundane and unintellectual things just shows the amount of thought processes. so unless i have something useful or discussive to say might as well keep silent.
and not that i have had that much time recently to think of anything else anyway. unless someone out there is masochistic enough to listen to another economics lecture, i shouldn't be saying too much because economics is about all i'm thinking of lately, what with the paper looming on thursday... but that's beyond the point now. heh.
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just saw another of my old friends get hitched. well people never declare these things but it's an educated guess based on the things i see. and i wonder why i never saw it earlier. perhaps the first sign was when he started going to school early and more importantly alone. or maybe it was the increasing uncomfortableness on house-visits even though i used to that that a lot before. should have noticed, but i didn't. guess i'm getting kinda rusty after all. then again, as someone pointed out to me, it wasn't very nice reading people. people hate to be exposed, but it's nice knowing what's going on just by observations.
well of course i can't say much, but i'm guessing social circles do change with relationships. it's difficult to tell for better or worse, since each case is different, but social circles do change. and knowing my attitude towards vulnearability, i tend to shy away from such changes. because it entails a larger dependancy on fewer people (or in some cases, on one person) which isn't healthy when it comes to defending yourself.
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and the recent news article about higher divorce rates? there was a rather similar question for one of the GP essays (not during the a levels) in which you were require to discuss the problem. the standard format would be to bring in the pros and cons, and what the government could do such as counselling services blah blah blah. anyone can do that. but i thought it was necessary to delve in slightly deeper and ask why the heck these rates are increasing. and i got soundly thrashed by the teacher who thought i was going off a tangent and not focusing on the question.
so it was quite a moment of vindication for me when i saw the reflect section write a report on the social issues surrounding these rise in divorce rates. one important factor they brought up was that the culture is now "me, me me" and that leads to selfish behavious which isn't compatible in a relationship. well that is partially true, but doesn't cover the whole thing.
in any relation, i believe there are always elements of give and take. you give in some, you take out some. think of it as something like a bank account. sometimes you put a little more in, in times of need you take some out. easy enough to imagine. what happens now, is that everyone's into the withdrawals. they expect something from this outcome, and they're going to have it. think about it. when we talk relations, getting married, whatever, how much of the time do we hear "we expect" or "i expect" or something along those lines? quite a bit, actually. so with expectations running high, withdrawals at a peak and nobody bothering to deposit much, i'm not too surprised that the bank is failing, badly.
of course, that isn't true for all cases. there are some i've been watching develop, and the imbalance is kinda not very safe either. by imbalance i mean if one party is giving way more than another. sooner or later the giving party will get tired, or burnout, and then we'll end up back on square one. which doesn't help much. the question of course is when the burnout happens.
i've got a few more theories on that but as this post is getting way too long i'm leaving it till the next. wouldn't be good for lag.
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quote:
"fate is a cloth weaved from the many threads of wills. a single strong will to change fate can alter the threads in the cloth into a whole new pattern, and thus change fate itself"
- Miyo Tanaka, Rika Furude, Hanyuu (Higurashi no Naku Koro ni Kai)
one person told me that she didn't like blogs and facebook because it's like opening up your life and diary for others to read. like you're sharing with the whole wide world your most personal details and life experiences and such. and that is rather true, looking at the state in which blogs are currently used. most of those i see are like describing their everyday lives, how they feel on issues, and stuff. which is ok, but perhaps not so palatable with 0thers.
other uses are pretty good too. the recent newspaper article on how one person uses the web to look for one particular person he saw on the subway? that's pretty avid use of imagination and technology, i thought. then there are those who use it for advertising purposes. boundaries of the net are only limited by imagination, but sadly most of us stick to tried-and-tested means of doing things. Plus it looks increasingly like just another popularity tool.
also, i didn't post much because i didn't have anything useful to say. i'm not much an advocate of posting mundane things and stuff. i don't have that much of an interest into other's lives and i hope nobody's going to poke into mine as well. and posting mundane and unintellectual things just shows the amount of thought processes. so unless i have something useful or discussive to say might as well keep silent.
and not that i have had that much time recently to think of anything else anyway. unless someone out there is masochistic enough to listen to another economics lecture, i shouldn't be saying too much because economics is about all i'm thinking of lately, what with the paper looming on thursday... but that's beyond the point now. heh.
...
just saw another of my old friends get hitched. well people never declare these things but it's an educated guess based on the things i see. and i wonder why i never saw it earlier. perhaps the first sign was when he started going to school early and more importantly alone. or maybe it was the increasing uncomfortableness on house-visits even though i used to that that a lot before. should have noticed, but i didn't. guess i'm getting kinda rusty after all. then again, as someone pointed out to me, it wasn't very nice reading people. people hate to be exposed, but it's nice knowing what's going on just by observations.
well of course i can't say much, but i'm guessing social circles do change with relationships. it's difficult to tell for better or worse, since each case is different, but social circles do change. and knowing my attitude towards vulnearability, i tend to shy away from such changes. because it entails a larger dependancy on fewer people (or in some cases, on one person) which isn't healthy when it comes to defending yourself.
...
and the recent news article about higher divorce rates? there was a rather similar question for one of the GP essays (not during the a levels) in which you were require to discuss the problem. the standard format would be to bring in the pros and cons, and what the government could do such as counselling services blah blah blah. anyone can do that. but i thought it was necessary to delve in slightly deeper and ask why the heck these rates are increasing. and i got soundly thrashed by the teacher who thought i was going off a tangent and not focusing on the question.
so it was quite a moment of vindication for me when i saw the reflect section write a report on the social issues surrounding these rise in divorce rates. one important factor they brought up was that the culture is now "me, me me" and that leads to selfish behavious which isn't compatible in a relationship. well that is partially true, but doesn't cover the whole thing.
in any relation, i believe there are always elements of give and take. you give in some, you take out some. think of it as something like a bank account. sometimes you put a little more in, in times of need you take some out. easy enough to imagine. what happens now, is that everyone's into the withdrawals. they expect something from this outcome, and they're going to have it. think about it. when we talk relations, getting married, whatever, how much of the time do we hear "we expect" or "i expect" or something along those lines? quite a bit, actually. so with expectations running high, withdrawals at a peak and nobody bothering to deposit much, i'm not too surprised that the bank is failing, badly.
of course, that isn't true for all cases. there are some i've been watching develop, and the imbalance is kinda not very safe either. by imbalance i mean if one party is giving way more than another. sooner or later the giving party will get tired, or burnout, and then we'll end up back on square one. which doesn't help much. the question of course is when the burnout happens.
i've got a few more theories on that but as this post is getting way too long i'm leaving it till the next. wouldn't be good for lag.
...
quote:
"fate is a cloth weaved from the many threads of wills. a single strong will to change fate can alter the threads in the cloth into a whole new pattern, and thus change fate itself"
- Miyo Tanaka, Rika Furude, Hanyuu (Higurashi no Naku Koro ni Kai)
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