first time in 9 years
thanks neeti. appreciate it =P prolly save it for yourself though, since it's after midnight now =P heh i can prolly count the number of ppl who remember it on one hand. even my grandparents don't know -.-" worse part was i didn't even get to spend the day the way i wanted... siiigh. not good to be right before an exam period.
ANYWAY, hi sue. well, everything proves to be a good read, if we have the time for it. time is an elusive thing, but something we should cherish. after all, there are only a fixed 24 hours in one day. how we allocate these 24 hours is quite different though. of course, different habits and body requirements does make a difference. for me, i'd rather go without a few more hours of sleep =P
ok... now for the meat -.-"
i suppose neil humphrey got his wish... i still remember what he said in his speech that day... well sigh. i still remember croc files rather vividly. it's not that it's an especially good film or something. after all, most nature documentaries, by themselves, are rather awe-inspiring by themselves. it boiled down to his attitude. see, when someone is over-enthusiastic and over-excite, it kinda inspires. just like when you have an outdoor adventure instructor, it's always better to have a energetic one that keeps a smile all day long and literally flies about, than one who pulls a long face all day and looks like he'd rather be somewhere else.
in the end, it all boils down to attitude. especially in impromptu, when you have to come up with things fast. if you keep a confident composure and stuff, even if you fumble or stutter people won't really take heed of it. note that it's confidence here not arrogance. take things in stride, and TRY not to be overtly defensive. yes, sometimes even i get overly defensive. that's not a good thing.
keeping a cool, calm and rational head is also all-important. getting tempers up, having heated arguments aren't going to solve any problem. that's why i hate arguing with people who raise their voices, or are just arguing with a head of steam. over-attachment or being over-emotional clouds one's sense of judgement. actions and morals should be determined by reasoning and logic, not emotions. but often, emotions are the ones that rule us.
take for example. the next economic chapter talks about risk taking. heck let's not go into that yet. just say you want to buy a new... say a bag. we can look at the price, comment about it's shape or colour, whether it has enough pockets or stuff, but when it comes down to the decision to pay up, it's ultimately an instinct. there you go, "impulse buying". there's no real logical way to put it. it just is the way.
which reminds me of a story quite some time ago. i'm not sure if i've mentioned this in a previous post. you know there are shopaholics and people who jsut love to shop just for the sake of it? i don't really believe that they WANT to buy something. it's just that it takes their mond of things or summat. i'm not an expertise in this area. probably some of the girls wil help me out on this one >_> but anyway it's mainly due to financial restrictions that's why these people window-shop. if they were given a large credit, or almost unlimited credit, i would believe they would actually be BUYING things. after all, when shopping it is much more satisfactory to be trying, testing and buying things than just browsing and looking isn't it? how's this for a thought. make a departmental store, that every $20 you spend gives you a "credit card" with say... $6000. virtual money, of course. but this card can be used in the shopping centre, as real credit. you get to experience almsot everything like you really bought the things, like wrapping, like tallying up at the counter blah blah blah. only difference is that you leave the things at the entrance before you leave. so you leave like $6000 worth of things at entrance, and the staff will put it back. you get to experience all the thrills of shopping and more! whaddya think? heck, even i don't know whether it's feasible >_> just some random thought that popped up...
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psychology is a very interesting field of study. how the human mind works. i've been reading a couple of books written by one psychologer and past-principle of i-forgot-what-school (the book's all in chinese and i'm a lil rusty) it's an interesting read. i shouldn't bore readers with the details i guess...
remember the old chinese adage for saying revenge is sweet even 10 years down the road? can't be any truer. got TWO instances where this applies.
one, when someone commits an offence at a young age, especially if there's a victim such as bullying. if you really want to be evil, don't do anything. pretend nothing has happened. more or less, that will just condemn that person, unless for some reason his hand was stayed later, and by that time it would have been too late. just think like this: at a young age, we have no idea of right or wrong, good or bad. we only know deterrents and punishments. so if you don't complain about bullying, that person will continue to believe it is all right. and since it is "all right" and he's benefitting, he will go on doing it. not to mention nothing will be done about it BECAUSE no one else KNOWS about it. imagine this goes on for years. what becomes embedded in his mind? i don't think i need to say any more.
in fact there's a story connected with this. it involves the military in China. one of the recruits was a brash arrogant *person* (i will not use expletives here) and he always wanted his way or wanted things to go his way. bullying, threatening etc were not uncommon. well, he wasn't the only one, after all. lots of recruits come in with weird mindsets or something. but the discipline is strict and all such cases, when reported, will be punished. well not too severely at that point in time. probably physical punishment or something. but no, his troopmates decided not to do anything and see what becomes of him. i'll tell you what happened. after he got transferred to the aircraft maintenance department, he got into an argument with one of the pilots. not happy with the pilot, he went to sabotage the plane, almost caused an accident too. of course, he got court-marshalled. 12 years, if i remember correctly. just think: would he be doing something so rash if he had been dealt with right at the beginning?
and another thing: the worse thing to most people, the THING that brings more regret than anything else, is to have known someone famous or influential, HAD a good relationship, but botched it. i have quite a few examples, but i don't think i need to elaborate. it wouldn't affect you much if you DON'T know a certain famours celebrity, but to have once known that person, had a good relationship that ended by your fault... it's just the pits. well, now i know what to do, especially to those who haven't been that nice to me =P payback in 30 years, just watch >:-)
that brings home another point: is it always that important to win in everything? especially arguments. heck, even relationships of the business sort. people in our lives make up what we are. so what if we win an argument? so what if we make a major deal by offending 3 people? the cost of victory is just not worth it if it jeopardizes relationships between people. but then again... almost everyone here is hell-bent on winning every single little thing. makes the world a much darker place.
that's about all i should say tonight. partly because it's now 1:30 in the morning and partly because if i make it any longer people will start nodding off reading my post XD. just thought i'd end off saying that, well, it is true that it is much harder to be a woman in this world than a man. no not talking about rights and stuff here. just in general. general, like even being yourself. not easy. how? i'll talk about it next time if i remember =P
ANYWAY, hi sue. well, everything proves to be a good read, if we have the time for it. time is an elusive thing, but something we should cherish. after all, there are only a fixed 24 hours in one day. how we allocate these 24 hours is quite different though. of course, different habits and body requirements does make a difference. for me, i'd rather go without a few more hours of sleep =P
ok... now for the meat -.-"
i suppose neil humphrey got his wish... i still remember what he said in his speech that day... well sigh. i still remember croc files rather vividly. it's not that it's an especially good film or something. after all, most nature documentaries, by themselves, are rather awe-inspiring by themselves. it boiled down to his attitude. see, when someone is over-enthusiastic and over-excite, it kinda inspires. just like when you have an outdoor adventure instructor, it's always better to have a energetic one that keeps a smile all day long and literally flies about, than one who pulls a long face all day and looks like he'd rather be somewhere else.
in the end, it all boils down to attitude. especially in impromptu, when you have to come up with things fast. if you keep a confident composure and stuff, even if you fumble or stutter people won't really take heed of it. note that it's confidence here not arrogance. take things in stride, and TRY not to be overtly defensive. yes, sometimes even i get overly defensive. that's not a good thing.
keeping a cool, calm and rational head is also all-important. getting tempers up, having heated arguments aren't going to solve any problem. that's why i hate arguing with people who raise their voices, or are just arguing with a head of steam. over-attachment or being over-emotional clouds one's sense of judgement. actions and morals should be determined by reasoning and logic, not emotions. but often, emotions are the ones that rule us.
take for example. the next economic chapter talks about risk taking. heck let's not go into that yet. just say you want to buy a new... say a bag. we can look at the price, comment about it's shape or colour, whether it has enough pockets or stuff, but when it comes down to the decision to pay up, it's ultimately an instinct. there you go, "impulse buying". there's no real logical way to put it. it just is the way.
which reminds me of a story quite some time ago. i'm not sure if i've mentioned this in a previous post. you know there are shopaholics and people who jsut love to shop just for the sake of it? i don't really believe that they WANT to buy something. it's just that it takes their mond of things or summat. i'm not an expertise in this area. probably some of the girls wil help me out on this one >_> but anyway it's mainly due to financial restrictions that's why these people window-shop. if they were given a large credit, or almost unlimited credit, i would believe they would actually be BUYING things. after all, when shopping it is much more satisfactory to be trying, testing and buying things than just browsing and looking isn't it? how's this for a thought. make a departmental store, that every $20 you spend gives you a "credit card" with say... $6000. virtual money, of course. but this card can be used in the shopping centre, as real credit. you get to experience almsot everything like you really bought the things, like wrapping, like tallying up at the counter blah blah blah. only difference is that you leave the things at the entrance before you leave. so you leave like $6000 worth of things at entrance, and the staff will put it back. you get to experience all the thrills of shopping and more! whaddya think? heck, even i don't know whether it's feasible >_> just some random thought that popped up...
...
psychology is a very interesting field of study. how the human mind works. i've been reading a couple of books written by one psychologer and past-principle of i-forgot-what-school (the book's all in chinese and i'm a lil rusty) it's an interesting read. i shouldn't bore readers with the details i guess...
remember the old chinese adage for saying revenge is sweet even 10 years down the road? can't be any truer. got TWO instances where this applies.
one, when someone commits an offence at a young age, especially if there's a victim such as bullying. if you really want to be evil, don't do anything. pretend nothing has happened. more or less, that will just condemn that person, unless for some reason his hand was stayed later, and by that time it would have been too late. just think like this: at a young age, we have no idea of right or wrong, good or bad. we only know deterrents and punishments. so if you don't complain about bullying, that person will continue to believe it is all right. and since it is "all right" and he's benefitting, he will go on doing it. not to mention nothing will be done about it BECAUSE no one else KNOWS about it. imagine this goes on for years. what becomes embedded in his mind? i don't think i need to say any more.
in fact there's a story connected with this. it involves the military in China. one of the recruits was a brash arrogant *person* (i will not use expletives here) and he always wanted his way or wanted things to go his way. bullying, threatening etc were not uncommon. well, he wasn't the only one, after all. lots of recruits come in with weird mindsets or something. but the discipline is strict and all such cases, when reported, will be punished. well not too severely at that point in time. probably physical punishment or something. but no, his troopmates decided not to do anything and see what becomes of him. i'll tell you what happened. after he got transferred to the aircraft maintenance department, he got into an argument with one of the pilots. not happy with the pilot, he went to sabotage the plane, almost caused an accident too. of course, he got court-marshalled. 12 years, if i remember correctly. just think: would he be doing something so rash if he had been dealt with right at the beginning?
and another thing: the worse thing to most people, the THING that brings more regret than anything else, is to have known someone famous or influential, HAD a good relationship, but botched it. i have quite a few examples, but i don't think i need to elaborate. it wouldn't affect you much if you DON'T know a certain famours celebrity, but to have once known that person, had a good relationship that ended by your fault... it's just the pits. well, now i know what to do, especially to those who haven't been that nice to me =P payback in 30 years, just watch >:-)
that brings home another point: is it always that important to win in everything? especially arguments. heck, even relationships of the business sort. people in our lives make up what we are. so what if we win an argument? so what if we make a major deal by offending 3 people? the cost of victory is just not worth it if it jeopardizes relationships between people. but then again... almost everyone here is hell-bent on winning every single little thing. makes the world a much darker place.
that's about all i should say tonight. partly because it's now 1:30 in the morning and partly because if i make it any longer people will start nodding off reading my post XD. just thought i'd end off saying that, well, it is true that it is much harder to be a woman in this world than a man. no not talking about rights and stuff here. just in general. general, like even being yourself. not easy. how? i'll talk about it next time if i remember =P
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